Brown Eyed Girls are not women of color

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I had a brief flirtation with a GOC "Girlfriend of Color"  back in the early 90's.  We were very good friends, so it was little more than a brief shack or two in between discussions on the complications of life, our relationship and race.  We were both extreme extroverts and considered life together might be too crowded.   I'd rethink that today.   Perhaps we could have been like WWF tag teams.  LaThanya, then me, while she takes a breather, then I take a breather.

Later I had a client (he was a Coach) state after his divorce that he would only date women of color so that no-one could ever accuse him of dating someone because they looked like his blue eyed, blond haired ex-wife.  Today he is in his 70's and dates 20 year old strippers.  In May I'll be seeing him and a bunch of former strippers with kids in tow where he comps them rooms at a resort in Pompano Beach.  They are not his kids.  His rule is that for the first year all he wants from a woman is to make out and cuddle.   No stripper has ever made it a year without heading back to their drug dealing boyfriend.   

So after meeting Coach in Pompano in January, I thought I too would take up his mantra and try dating women of color....so as to never be accused by my daughter of dating some woman "...because she looks like mom...".  Mom has blue eyes like me.

This worked well on my first coffee date with a Dominican woman who claimed Dominicans have African decent like Puerto Ricans.  She seemed flattered that I had such an attraction.  I explained that it was my hope and understanding that women from the tropics have warmer tropical regions.   She assured me that, what I had been told and was hoping was absolutely 100% correct and that good looking Gringo such as me would be finding that out for certain, sooner rather than later.

But since then I have embarrassingly found out that Cuban, Peruvian, Mexican, Venezuelan and Colombian women do not consider themselves to be women of color.  Fortunately I avoided being "un gringo de cara roja" by quickly informing my coffee date that I have a "very inclusive" definition of "woman of color" stating "You have brown eyes do you not?"

"Si"

"And I see that you speak English as a second language?"

"Si"

"Entonces bajo mi principio de inclusión, tú también puedes ser una mujer de color."




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