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Every man - of course that means every man like me - is looking for a woman that something about her face and the way she looks at me is all it takes and without a second thought, I will die completely fulfilled by diving on the grenade that landed near us. Generally we will also have this for our daughters.   It's biological.  It's chemical.  It's pure, let me die for you kind of love.   Beyond the aforementioned it is biological and it's why women should probably not serve in combat.  Men, especially those prone to US military service are really high on the scale of protectors of women and will favor them over their male counterparts long before presented with the necessity or propriety of diving on a grenade.   Yeah - I know this is contrary to the sexist stereotype, but I served in a detachment in Thailand in 1989 where there were 24 of us and 1 of her and even though she was married if she'd been on our right and dude on our left and tw...

 I was taken aback when asked if I was a Jew or rather told that they were not interested if I was not a Jew.  At 50, and in Miami I thought women would be beyond that.   Or maybe she thought of herself as the second coming of Sarah ? But while hanging out at the Panera in Aventura, I met an Israeli into commercial real estate, so we spoke at length about many subjects until I mentioned the above and that I had a Jewish great grandmother who migrated to Michigan, prior to WWII and raised my Grandfather as a Presbyterian.  So technically my Grandfather was a Jew. But then my Grandfather married a "Unitarian".   Since Jewishness is generally passed down through the mother, OK did I lose my Jewishness?   Hmm.... I don't think Unitarianism is a religion so like if he was a Jew, wouldn't my mother have then been a sort of Jew and that would then make me full Jew.   Or am I like a sort of Jew - a non Kosher Jew?   Sort of like a...

I'm noticing a lot of women in their late 40's and 50's stressing their financial independence.   And, they will mention that men are put off by it because they want to "control" their woman. Hmm.  Then get a Geisha?   I look at the woman's profile and wonder why?  If she's capable of all that, why would I want to come in, take over and get in the way of what I find so attractive...and that developed without my input.    I've got a very capable daughter who has developed that way with my input.  She needed me.  And she wants me. At the risk of being offensive...I'm a gambler when it comes to humor, I am going to let a friends TOM out of the bag.  He claims TOM has given him a very successful 4th marriage. T is for TIME.  When the woman wants or needs your time, you stop what you are doing and give her the time.  When she is busy or not interested, you stay out of her way.  Go take care of your own business and be read...

ASK YOURSELF - is the guy I'm chatting with on the dating site, using the same device for viewing porn, daily, hourly or even while I am chatting with him? PORN ROTS THE SOUL " So many people trapped in a web of sin And there seem like there is no faith within Immorality is the order of the day And the biggest of them all is the sexual sin Said its time we understand the sneaking plans of the enemy To get them minds on fornication and adultery Uses the eyes to normalize to polarize  And open up the appetites of endless possibilities Like multiple partners and unfaithful spouse" - --Jermaine Edwards and Dj Nicholas "Never Lose My Faith" Porn Statistics (data)   

The opposite of addiction is connection. The root of the pornography consumption is a lack of connection to and with people who love us.   Love is a connection powerful enough to break addictions to any behavior or substance. Loving oneself is not enough.  If it were, what would be the problem with someone saying "I love my self by pleasuring myself with this addiction."   Addictions are manipulative, intimidating and eventually dominating.   We are manipulated into them by the attractiveness of the feelings within us that they engender.   But then we are intimidated by shame to stay with the addiction even while it breaks our connections to other people and healthier activities.   Finally the addiction dominates every facet of our lives and relationships and we become the addict that manipulates, intimidates and desires to dominate others. Pornography and pornography addiction are the gateway to all sorts of behaviors found within ...

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